I want to marry this man.
We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, “You can have ambition But not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful otherwise you will threaten the man.” Because I am female I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of Joy and love and mutual support, but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors- not for jobs or for accomplishments which I think can be a good thing- but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings In the way that boys are. Feminist: a person who believes in the social political, and economic equality of the sexes.
America, tell me that I should shut my mouth because I am one of the 17.7 million women, because I am three times more likely to suffer from depression, six times more likely to suffer from PTSD, and four times more likely to contemplate suicide.
Because my rapist’s reason was ‘you’re too sexy to stop’, because my rapist locked the door, repeatedly shoved me down and ripped my clothes off again and again, every time I tried to escape.
Because I never thought to report, like the 60% of victims who don’t report their assaults, because when I wanted to report, I didn’t know where to go, because no one would support me, because of the 40% of assaults that are actually reported, only 10% lead to an arrest, 8% are prosecuted, 4% lead to a felony conviction, and only 3% of rapists will spend a day in jail.
America, ask me what was I wearing, ask me what I did, ask me why I didn’t go to the police immediately, ask me right after it happened when it felt like there was nothing left inside but shame and flashbacks, ask me when I felt stripped of dignity or when I spent an hour shaking in the shower scrubbing every skin cell on my body but still feeling dirty, or when I spent hours in a friend’s arm while I searched for that silver lining to make life seem good again.
So I ask you America. when are you going to stand with your daughters and sons?
Don’t put this (only) on tumblr. Go out. Protest. Write a letter. This is a beautiful speech. It would be a shame if it will only be seen on the (over rated) social media. I’m sure they have no idea how to reply.
This person literally organized a march to end victim blaming. That’s what the sign and the speech are from. They rallied hundred of survivors and supporters. Don’t think that just because you only see something on social media that that’s all there is to it.
Emma Watson represents the UN, in her role as UN Women Goodwill Ambassador, in Uruguay where she was campaigning for a higher representation of women in politics.
im just so proud